Have you thought about how you will react when your friend discovers that she is going to be a mother?

This time for your friend can be unsettling knowing that she is having to navigate through an unplanned pregnancy. Above all, she needs to understand that she's not alone in this journey. Your friend can get through this time with the help and support of friends, family and loved ones by her side every step of the way.

If you have a friend who is going through an unplanned pregnancy, here are some ways you can support her:

How To Support Her:

When you talk with your friend, make sure to be a good listener. Be sure to ask about how she is feeling and identify opportunities where you can help. Simply be present for her. Believe it or not, sometimes this is the best way to help.

Communicate with those who are currently responsible for her (parents, boyfriend, husband, etc.). As her friend, you can help her break the news to her parents, the child’s father, or other individuals who need to know that she is currently expecting. Together, you will be able to identify who, what, where and when to communicate this important information so that her support system grows through this time.

Be informed on organizations & places that are available to someone going through an unplanned pregnancy. Your friend has more available options than what she may currently realize. These organizations are more than likely within her vicinity, so help is within reach. You can find those on OptionLine.org and even assist her with making an appointment.

How Not To Support Her:

Do not pile on negative emotions. More than likely, she's already feeling guilt, embarrassment, and probably some shame. Right now is the time to be a secure individual she can trust. Remember to be positive and to encourage her!

Do not persuade / pressure her. Ultimately, she needs to make her own decisions responsibly; provide her with sound advice but always let the choice be hers. This is how you empower your friend to be a stronger woman and a good mother.

Do not prevent her from being heard. Being the best listener is what she will need throughout this pregnancy from those around her in order to make the most sound decisions.

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